LGBTQ+ Terminology Guide

A comprehensive glossary of current terms related to gender identity, sexual orientation, and the queer community. Language evolves, and respect means using the terms people choose for themselves.

Important Notes

  • Language is personal and evolving. Always use the terms that individuals prefer for themselves.
  • Not every term will resonate with every person. Identity is deeply personal.
  • When in doubt, politely ask someone how they identify and which pronouns they use.
  • Making mistakes is human - what matters is being respectful, apologizing when needed, and learning.

AFAB / AMAB

Assigned Female At Birth / Assigned Male At Birth. Refers to the sex assignment given at birth based on physical characteristics.

Agender

Someone who does not identify with any gender, or identifies as having no gender.

Ally

A person who supports and stands up for the rights of LGBTQ+ people, even though they may not identify as LGBTQ+ themselves.

Androgynous

Having both masculine and feminine characteristics, or appearing neither distinctly masculine nor feminine.

Aromantic (Aro)

Someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction to others.

Asexual (Ace)

Someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction to others. This is a spectrum and can include demisexual and grey-asexual identities.

Bigender

Someone who identifies as two genders, either simultaneously or moving between them.

Binary / Gender Binary

The classification of gender into two distinct, opposite forms: male and female. Many people's gender identities fall outside this binary.

Binding

The practice of flattening one's chest using a binder or other compression garment, often used by transmasculine people.

Bisexual / Bi

Someone who is attracted to people of more than one gender.

Bottom Surgery

Gender-affirming genital surgery. This can include various procedures depending on the person's goals and identity.

Cisgender / Cis

Someone whose gender identity matches the sex they were assigned at birth.

Closeted

When a person has not disclosed their sexual orientation or gender identity to others.

Coming Out

The process of acknowledging and sharing one's sexual orientation or gender identity with others.

Deadname / Deadnaming

A trans person's name assigned at birth that they no longer use. Deadnaming is the act of using this old name, which is harmful and disrespectful.

Demigender

A gender identity that is partially, but not fully, a particular gender (e.g., demiboy, demigirl).

Drag

Performance art where people dress in clothing and adopt personas associated with a different gender, often in an exaggerated style. Drag is a form of expression and entertainment, not an indicator of gender identity.

Dysphoria / Gender Dysphoria

The distress or discomfort that may occur when a person's gender identity doesn't match their sex assigned at birth or their body.

FTM / F2M

Female-to-Male. A trans man or transmasculine person. Many prefer simply 'trans man' or 'man'.

Gay

Generally refers to men who are attracted to men, but can also be used as an umbrella term for anyone who is attracted to the same gender.

Gender

A social and cultural concept referring to the roles, behaviours, expressions, and identities that society considers appropriate for men, women, and gender-diverse people.

Gender Affirming Care

Medical, psychological, and social support that helps a person live according to their gender identity. May include therapy, hormones, surgery, or social transition.

Gender Expression

How a person publicly presents their gender through clothing, behavior, voice, body characteristics, and more.

Gender Fluid

Someone whose gender identity shifts or fluctuates over time.

Gender Identity

A person's internal sense of their own gender, which may or may not correspond with the sex they were assigned at birth.

Gender Non-Conforming (GNC)

Someone whose gender expression doesn't conform to traditional expectations of their assigned gender.

Genderqueer

Someone whose gender identity falls outside the traditional gender binary, or who rejects binary gender distinctions.

HRT / Hormone Replacement Therapy

Medical treatment that introduces hormones (testosterone or estrogen) to help align a person's physical characteristics with their gender identity.

Intersex

A person born with sex characteristics that don't fit typical definitions of male or female. This is a naturally occurring variation.

Lesbian

A woman who is attracted to women.

LGBTQ+ / LGBTQIA+

Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, and more. An inclusive umbrella term for diverse sexual orientations and gender identities.

Misgender / Misgendering

Using incorrect pronouns, name, or gendered language for someone. This can be hurtful and invalidating.

MTF / M2F

Male-to-Female. A trans woman or transfeminine person. Many prefer simply 'trans woman' or 'woman'.

Neutrois

A non-binary gender identity characterized by neutrality or a neutral gender.

Non-Binary / Enby (NB)

Someone whose gender identity doesn't fit within the binary of male or female. This is an umbrella term encompassing many identities.

Outing

Disclosing someone's sexual orientation or gender identity without their consent. This is harmful and can be dangerous.

Packing

Wearing a prosthetic or padding in one's underwear to create a masculine genital appearance, often used by transmasculine people.

Pan / Pansexual

Someone who is attracted to people regardless of their gender identity.

Passing

When a trans person is perceived by others as their authentic gender. This term can be problematic as it implies some people are more 'valid' than others.

Pronouns

Words used to refer to someone (she/her, he/him, they/them, ze/zir, etc.). Respecting pronouns is fundamental to respecting identity.

Queer

An umbrella term for people who are not heterosexual or cisgender. Once used as a slur, it has been reclaimed by many LGBTQ+ people, though not everyone is comfortable with it.

Questioning

Someone who is exploring their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Sex

Biological characteristics including chromosomes, hormones, and anatomy. Often assigned at birth as male or female, though sex exists on a spectrum.

Sexual Orientation

Who a person is attracted to romantically, emotionally, and/or sexually. This is distinct from gender identity.

Social Transition

The process of changing one's gender expression to align with their gender identity, which may include new name, pronouns, clothing, and how they present themselves.

Stealth

When a trans person lives fully as their gender and does not disclose their trans status.

Top Surgery

Gender-affirming chest surgery, which may involve breast augmentation or chest masculinization.

Trans / Transgender

Someone whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. An umbrella term including trans men, trans women, non-binary people, and more.

Transfeminine / Transfem

Someone assigned male at birth whose gender identity is more feminine, which may include trans women and some non-binary people.

Transmasculine / Transmasc

Someone assigned female at birth whose gender identity is more masculine, which may include trans men and some non-binary people.

Transition

The process of affirming and expressing one's gender identity, which may include social, medical, and/or legal changes. Each person's transition is unique.

Transphobia

Prejudice, discrimination, or hatred directed at transgender people.

Transsexual

An older term for someone who has medically transitioned or plans to. Many people now prefer 'transgender' or simply 'trans'.

Tucking

Positioning and securing the genitals to create a flatter appearance, often used by transfeminine people.

Two-Spirit

A modern umbrella term used by some Indigenous North Americans to describe gender-variant people in their communities. This is a cultural identity specific to Indigenous peoples.

Ze / Zir / Hir

Gender-neutral pronouns used by some non-binary and gender non-conforming people as alternatives to he/him or she/her.

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